At the root of every blurry boundary lies a fragile belief: I am only valuable when I am useful. When our self-worth is tied to keeping others comfortable, saying "no" can feel incredibly daunting, raising a vulnerable fear that choosing ourselves might mean facing isolation or disappointing the people we care about. The human body and mind aren’t designed to be under constant pressure. Over time, routinely saying "yes" when you need to say "no" can leave you feeling drained